Suggested Dance Parent Etiquette and Mindful Topics
● Dance teachers, Instructors, Directors, and Studio Owners DO want what is best for
your child. Try to approach situations in a non-confrontational manner and allow for
an open dialogue that communicates mutual respect. The only way to have positive
resolutions is to listen to each other. We can have empathy for diverse viewpoints and
still unite on the mutual goal of keeping your Child’s health and safety at the forefront.
● If you need to talk to the Studio Owner or Teachers, emails can be an effective way to
solve a problem with clear communication and history of what was shared, but special
attention must be given to setting proper tone. If the issue cannot be solved via email,
set up an appointment with who you need to speak to. Please do not interrupt class
time unless it is an emergency, and be mindful that if a Teacher is in-between classes
or is arriving or leaving the studio, that it may not be the best time to try to have a
lengthy discussion. Teachers usually use those moments for preparation. Instead,
request to set up an appointment. Communicating that you want to connect with
them and you want to do it at a time that fits both of your schedules shows respect.
Discussing issues with other parents before giving the Studio Owner or Teacher an
opportunity to give insight and input, could increase the chances of divisiveness and
● Do not discuss other Students with Teachers or Parents except in the case of bullying
or another serious issue that needs to be taken care of. More conflict can arise when
parents are talking in the waiting room or studio about another Student’s placement,
ability, or routine.
● Although it may be tempting to question Teachers regarding placements, it is
important you trust in their expertise and intentions. It may be difficult if your Child
has friends who move up a level and they do not. At those times you can support your
Child through conversations and listen to their feelings. You can also support the
Teacher by understanding they are putting the safety of your Child first by waiting
until they have attained certain skills before they are placed in a higher level or invited
to start pointe work. This is when resiliency is built. These are moments we can assure
a Child their worth is not in their skills. Remind your Child that their value and worth to
you is not in their talents, skills, placements, accolades, trophies, popularity,
aesthetics, etc. Try to focus on character, work ethic, kindness, joy and passion over
the above mentioned points. More than likely your Dancer may already be hard
enough on themselves.
● If you want to give your Child constructive feedback, start and finish with the positive.
● If there is conflict between Parents, please be respectful and keep it out of the Dance
Studio. Strive to find resolution free of getting Children, other Parents, or the Studio
● Your Child is not the only one who listens to you and you do not know who you could
be impacting. Try to be mindful of tone towards your Child and others, gossip, how
you talk about your Child’s Teachers, Studio Owner, other Parents, and other
● Your Social Media choices are modeling Social Media management to your Children.
Be thoughtful about what is said on Social Media about the Dance Studio, other
Studios, other Dancers, and the world in general. Social Media offers little to no
privacy and posts and photos can easily be shared or have a screenshot taken.
● Advocate for your Dancer’s mental, emotional, and physical health. Be mindful of your
Dancer’s age and their corresponding developmental needs. If you need help, do not
hesitate to reach out to one of YPAD’s specialists for a free consultation. We are here
for you and your family.
● Consider talking to your Child or Children about media literacy, body image, body
shaming, diversity, inclusiveness, equality, perfectionism, pressures in dance, healthy
management of social media, bullying, internet safety, healthy sexuality, sexualization,
objectification, lust vs love and other hard topics you may want to understandably